The bhagavad gita is a manual guide to control your
mind.
If your relationship is in a bad phase then it is
because you do not know how to control your mind.
If your carrier is in a bad phase then it is because you
don't know how to control of your mind. If you get angry after success, it is because you do
not know how to control your mind.
Our life is not encrypted and set, like the life of an
animal.
A photographer tries to photograph a ray fish
underwater and the tail of the ray fish hits his body and he dies on the spot.
His wife and kids wont blame the ray fish for his death
because they know that is its nature.
The nature of an animal is its ferocity.
Human beings are different than animals in various
ways. If you study an animal then you can generalise about
the rest.
For example, if you study a cockroach then you can
generalise about the nature of the rest of the
cockroaches.
That is because animals are homogeneous in nature. But this is not in the case of human beings.
We have different type of natures.
Two siblings living in the same house, having the
same kind of nourishment and caring but have
significantly different nature.
Even twins have different nature!
There is often confusion regarding the behaviour pattern in human beings.
For example a mother is upset that her 16 yr old
daughter does not share things with her but rather
shares it with her friends!
She says I being your mother lived with you every single day and I am the last person to know it!
A person wants to leave his wife, and be with
someone else.
And the reason his wife is upset is not that he is bad
and infidel, but why is he bad with her, whereas he
has the good qualities and can remain good with an another woman.
This is the confusion...
We all have good and bad qualities,
for example, during riots a bus goes, and rioters are
hitting stones, and their leader says don't hurt the
driver, don't hurt the driver! We all have that little humility in us, that conscience
which is good.
Everyone has a different nature, a top actress who
finds out that her husband is infidel wants to make
sure that he is monetarily empty.
It is because that actress has a bad nature it triggers and she wants to act upon it.
If her nature is calm and serene then she will say
human beings make mistakes and so what if he has
made a mistake, let me forgive him.
Who knows he might realise his mistake because of
her generosity...
In any relationship, what a person wants is 'to accept
however he\she is'
You cannot change the nature of any human being
then how can you relate to that person or work in
harmony? As everyone of us living in a society have
to work in harmony and co operation. Observe what that person likes or dislikes,how he
reacts to all the things.
If you get your ego in between and say no, it happens
like this and the solution that I am giving is the way it
supposed to be and you must act according to me!
Then you are attracting hatred, either the person will be submissive and go away or become aggressive.
So, observe without being critical, just plainly observe,
don't judge if he/she is good or bad, right or wrong.
If you want to work with the person in harmony, how do you handle?
Observe what triggers the person to act, and in what
way can you relate to him. For example, see... Ok he/she likes it if I offer him
work in a polite manner so I must be polite and kind.
You should relate to it, act according to that person,
see what triggers him/her to act and what triggers
him/her to get annoyed
And then work with him/her accordingly. In fact, the aspect that you are changing and acting
according to the other person and relating in that
way, that is called Love...
When you yourself cannot change after attending so
much of self improvement lectures, then how can
you expect the other person to change, the one who is not even attending those lectures !?!
PS: This is a lecture by Adi Kalyaniwala, I have just made an attempt to write and compile it down.
mind.
If your relationship is in a bad phase then it is
because you do not know how to control your mind.
If your carrier is in a bad phase then it is because you
don't know how to control of your mind. If you get angry after success, it is because you do
not know how to control your mind.
Our life is not encrypted and set, like the life of an
animal.
A photographer tries to photograph a ray fish
underwater and the tail of the ray fish hits his body and he dies on the spot.
His wife and kids wont blame the ray fish for his death
because they know that is its nature.
The nature of an animal is its ferocity.
Human beings are different than animals in various
ways. If you study an animal then you can generalise about
the rest.
For example, if you study a cockroach then you can
generalise about the nature of the rest of the
cockroaches.
That is because animals are homogeneous in nature. But this is not in the case of human beings.
We have different type of natures.
Two siblings living in the same house, having the
same kind of nourishment and caring but have
significantly different nature.
Even twins have different nature!
There is often confusion regarding the behaviour pattern in human beings.
For example a mother is upset that her 16 yr old
daughter does not share things with her but rather
shares it with her friends!
She says I being your mother lived with you every single day and I am the last person to know it!
A person wants to leave his wife, and be with
someone else.
And the reason his wife is upset is not that he is bad
and infidel, but why is he bad with her, whereas he
has the good qualities and can remain good with an another woman.
This is the confusion...
We all have good and bad qualities,
for example, during riots a bus goes, and rioters are
hitting stones, and their leader says don't hurt the
driver, don't hurt the driver! We all have that little humility in us, that conscience
which is good.
Everyone has a different nature, a top actress who
finds out that her husband is infidel wants to make
sure that he is monetarily empty.
It is because that actress has a bad nature it triggers and she wants to act upon it.
If her nature is calm and serene then she will say
human beings make mistakes and so what if he has
made a mistake, let me forgive him.
Who knows he might realise his mistake because of
her generosity...
In any relationship, what a person wants is 'to accept
however he\she is'
You cannot change the nature of any human being
then how can you relate to that person or work in
harmony? As everyone of us living in a society have
to work in harmony and co operation. Observe what that person likes or dislikes,how he
reacts to all the things.
If you get your ego in between and say no, it happens
like this and the solution that I am giving is the way it
supposed to be and you must act according to me!
Then you are attracting hatred, either the person will be submissive and go away or become aggressive.
So, observe without being critical, just plainly observe,
don't judge if he/she is good or bad, right or wrong.
If you want to work with the person in harmony, how do you handle?
Observe what triggers the person to act, and in what
way can you relate to him. For example, see... Ok he/she likes it if I offer him
work in a polite manner so I must be polite and kind.
You should relate to it, act according to that person,
see what triggers him/her to act and what triggers
him/her to get annoyed
And then work with him/her accordingly. In fact, the aspect that you are changing and acting
according to the other person and relating in that
way, that is called Love...
When you yourself cannot change after attending so
much of self improvement lectures, then how can
you expect the other person to change, the one who is not even attending those lectures !?!
PS: This is a lecture by Adi Kalyaniwala, I have just made an attempt to write and compile it down.
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