Sunday, February 9, 2014

The cute little boy...

After having a heavy dinner at a wedding, I got some ice cream as dessert. There were rows of chairs being arranged, as they are in most indian weddings for guests to sit and watch the bride and bridegroom on the stage. There I noticed a cute little boy roaming around, bored (so was I) in the wedding. I call him and ask him animatedly, would you like to have some ice cream? He is obviously shy, and hesitates. I feed him some ice cream and he smiles!
He walks away towards his father who is seated two rows ahead of me. Shows him he got ice cream, his father smiles back. Then he again comes where I am seated. I ask him the same question again, he agrees to have ice cream this time. Again he returns to his father and shows his ice cream.
Now he runs and comes to me for more ice cream. I laugh at him when I look at him from a distance. He now knows the drill and laughs in a playful and shy manner. We both know what we want. He to have ice cream from me, and me to just watch him relish and enjoy his spoonful of ice cream.
This is now being repeated four to five times, and both of us enjoying it whenever he comes. Now my parents call me as I need to be on stage to wish the couple for a bright married life. I stand and walk towards the stage, little realising about the boy.
The cute little boy as usual goes to his father after having a spoonful of ice cream, then when he comes back, searches for me. He can't find me now. He looks after me row after row, two and fro; he feels lost. I can look at him from the stage finding for me, and I feel so sorry for him. I feel bad to leave him alone. My family who knew the whole episode have the same feeling as I have. One look at him, and there was his lost face, the eagerness to meet me all over again was so evident in his walk. I try to wave out to him, indicating I am here and will be back again, but in vain. I feel sad, so does he.
Later, I wish the couple and then when I step down, I don't find him. Neither does he. Now me searching for him. Row after row; two and fro.
The eagerness of the boy trying to find me, touched me so much! I just can't forget the scene where he is finding me at those same rows where I was seated. I felt that I am needed.
But then I think again, and ponder over it. Did he need me or just the ice cream?
Yet, I continue to feel that whatever it was, the feeling that he needs me is so amazing!

I also deduced that repetitive action makes you feel something for the other person at the end. We are sure to have the same feeling for those few people in our life whom we talk to or meet on a regular basis.
The question is, will those people search for you as eagerly as the cute little boy?

Friday, January 31, 2014

What is right, what is wrong?

One always says, this is the right thing to do this is wrong. Stealing is wrong, donating is right.
But do all of us believe in this right wrong principle? I think donating is not always right. If one donates to a trust, and demands his name to be flashed. It's not right. Donating in that way is wrong.
So is there anything right or wrong in this world? I certainly don't think so.
To test the right or wrong with your peace of mind. If you do this, it gives you your peace of mind? Go ahead. No? Back out now.
How do you know all this? The answer is conscience, logic. Not high logic. simple plain reason and logic.
We all have an inner voice, which is called conscience. Some hear it aloud, some can't. But it is very much present in all of us.
Now, lets be clear with the help of an example. Is Attachment is right or wrong? Some perceive attachment as love. But it ain't so. Attachment is when you cannot function without that individual. Love is where you can.

Attachment=selfishness+love
Love=Attachment-selfishness

When people perceive attachment as love, they say attachment is good. But the truth is, attachment is no love. Many don't even know the difference between the two. Cannot accept there is a difference between the two. Cannot segregate attachment and love.
Once they do that, there will be peace.
Peace of mind is the litmus test of doing right or wrong.
Hence nothing is right, nothing wrong. As long as it gives you the peace of mind each of us deserve.