Even this shall pass away

Once in Persia reigned a king,
Who upon a signet ring,
Carved a maxim strange and wise,
When held before his eyes,
Gave him counsel at a glance,
Fit for every change and chance:
Solemn words, and these were they:
“Even this shall pass away.”

Trains of camel through the sand
Brought him gems from Samarcand;
Fleets of galleys over the seas
Brought him pearls to rival these,
But he counted little gain,
Treasures of the mine or main;
“What is wealth?” the king would say,
“Even this shall pass away.”

Mid the pleasures of his court
At the zenith of their sport,
When the palms of all his guests
Burned with clapping at his jests,
Seated midst the figs and wine,
Said the king, “Ah, friends of mine.
Pleasure comes but not to stay,
“Even this shall pass away.”

Woman, fairest ever seen
Was the bride he crowned as queen,
Pillowed on the marriage-bed
Whispering to his soul, he said,
“Though no monarch ever pressed
Fairer bosom to his breast,
Mortal flesh is only clay!
“Even this shall pass away.”

Fighting on the furious field,
Once a javelin pierced his shield,
Soldiers with a loud lament
Bore him bleeding to his tortured side,
“Pain is hard to bear;” he cried.
“But with patience, day by day,
Even this shall pass away.”

Towering in a public square
Forty cubits in this air,
And the king disguised, unknown,
Gazed upon his sculptured name.
And he pondered, “What is fame?”
“Fame is but a slow decay!
“Even this shall pass away.”

Struck with palsy, sore and old,
Waiting at the gates of gold,
Said he with his dying breath
“Life is done, but what is Death?”
Then as answer to the king
Fell a sunbeam on his ring;
Showing by a heavenly ray
Even this shall pass away.”

Snapshot of human nature

The bhagavad gita is a manual guide to control your
mind.
If your relationship is in a bad phase then it is
because you do not know how to control your mind.
If your carrier is in a bad phase then it is because you
don't know how to control of your mind. If you get angry after success, it is because you do
not know how to control your mind.
Our life is not encrypted and set, like the life of an
animal.
A photographer tries to photograph a ray fish
underwater and the tail of the ray fish hits his body and he dies on the spot.
His wife and kids wont blame the ray fish for his death
because they know that is its nature.
The nature of an animal is its ferocity.
Human beings are different than animals in various
ways. If you study an animal then you can generalise about
the rest.
For example, if you study a cockroach then you can
generalise about the nature of the rest of the
cockroaches.
That is because animals are homogeneous in nature. But this is not in the case of human beings.
We have different type of natures.
Two siblings living in the same house, having the
same kind of nourishment and caring but have
significantly different nature.
Even twins have different nature!
There is often confusion regarding the behaviour pattern in human beings.
For example a mother is upset that her 16 yr old
daughter does not share things with her but rather
shares it with her friends!
She says I being your mother lived with you every single day and I am the last person to know it!
A person wants to leave his wife, and be with
someone else.
And the reason his wife is upset is not that he is bad
and infidel, but why is he bad with her, whereas he
has the good qualities and can remain good with an another woman.
This is the confusion...
We all have good and bad qualities,
for example, during riots a bus goes, and rioters are
hitting stones, and their leader says don't hurt the
driver, don't hurt the driver! We all have that little humility in us, that conscience
which is good.
Everyone has a different nature, a top actress who
finds out that her husband is infidel wants to make
sure that he is monetarily empty.
It is because that actress has a bad nature it triggers and she wants to act upon it.
If her nature is calm and serene then she will say
human beings make mistakes and so what if he has
made a mistake, let me forgive him.
Who knows he might realise his mistake because of
her generosity...
In any relationship, what a person wants is 'to accept
however he\she is'
You cannot change the nature of any human being
then how can you relate to that person or work in
harmony? As everyone of us living in a society have
to work in harmony and co operation. Observe what that person likes or dislikes,how he
reacts to all the things.
If you get your ego in between and say no, it happens
like this and the solution that I am giving is the way it
supposed to be and you must act according to me!
Then you are attracting hatred, either the person will be submissive and go away or become aggressive.
So, observe without being critical, just plainly observe,
don't judge if he/she is good or bad, right or wrong.
If you want to work with the person in harmony, how do you handle?
Observe what triggers the person to act, and in what
way can you relate to him. For example, see... Ok he/she likes it if I offer him
work in a polite manner so I must be polite and kind.
You should relate to it, act according to that person,
see what triggers him/her to act and what triggers
him/her to get annoyed
And then work with him/her accordingly. In fact, the aspect that you are changing and acting
according to the other person and relating in that
way, that is called Love...
When you yourself cannot change after attending so
much of self improvement lectures, then how can
you expect the other person to change, the one who is not even attending those lectures !?!

PS: This is a lecture by Adi Kalyaniwala, I have just made an attempt to write and compile it down.

Knowledge is always taken never given.

Parents always tell their children, do this do that. They pressurize them to the core and the result all of us are seeing is the suicides happening everywhere. It is a very sad thing that is happening around today.
Even I hate it when people just advice me even when I didn't ask them anything. I call that 'free advice'; why do that? Why not just do our own respective work and carry on.
At times it ok to offer a helping hand, but after looking at the receivers negative reaction, do you still want to offer that help?
My sir used to always observe that friends help others even if they have not asked help. He used to say, 'that person is not your friend who helps you when you are not asking him for help; He is just trying to prove that how intelligent he is'. If he is not helping you then he is purposely doing that so you can prove it yourself!
Is there bliss in getting help from others and then saying hey! I am done with my work?
Or is there bliss in saying that hey! I am done with my work and that too all by myself!
I am not against the act of helping, I am against free advice givers!
Ok fine you see someone in pain and then you ask do you need help? if he says yes I do.
Earlier even I used to help others, even if not asked, but then I realized this fact

Is it practical?

We come across so many quotes and sayings, but do we apply them is our daily life?
I try and apply them, and one must, I feel, if you listen to it believe in it then why not apply it?
What is the use in just listening and going ahead? Doesn't make sense according to me.
So, here are some lines that really did inspire me.
'Your happiness should not be dependent on others'
I completely agree with this sentence. But no one applies this one. They say it is difficult to apply. Hey, no pain no gain! Besides this one is really very beneficial and if applied there wont be any attachments to anyone. This will solve almost half of our problems. Just think about it, the pain that a person goes through if someone loses someone. It would be great if his/her happiness would be dependent on others. It does not say that don't love others, it just says that don't be attached to them. Now people would come up and say, this is not practical! ohh yes it is, if you would try to apply, give a try. Such people are just deciding what will be the outcome! You can't decide that. No one can. Try and then wait and watch, the results will be amazing.

Do the deed don't worry about the fruit.

I always wondered about this statement. How is this possible, how can one not bother about the fruit and still concentrate about the deed. But it is true in its own sense.
If we worry about the fruit and do the deed our whole concentration is diverted to the result i.e the fruit and we eventually fail to perform well so, the outcome is negative.
But as we are always tensed and curious to know what will be the outcome of this and that. We tend to worry about the fruit. But isn't all that a waste of thought? Who knows what will happen next?
Lets live life and enjoy as if tomorrow is the end. One must be satisfied with oneself if one has to die tomorrow.
It is difficult to apply this, but not impossible for sure.

It is not in your hands, accept, trust and wait! (and then watch) :)

Something very unexpected has happened in our lives we are tensed, sad and then slowly depression shows its ugly head.
This is what is happening every where, it should not happen like that, this is not natural. We assume that this is natural, obviously we will be depressed if we lose some closed one. But no this is just our belief system that we have created in our minds. Just a mere illusion that is created by each one of us! We can stay normal. Yes it is very difficult but not impossible, and it is practical.
It is written in the bhagavad gita that one shouldn't be attached. Yes this is where we are lacking behind, we get emotionally attached to others and then fear losing them and after we have lost them we are unable to accept it and depression shows its ugly head.
The bhagavad gita is not just mere imagination, it is reality it is historical! And if applied in daily life will do us wonders to us! We have taken it for granted as it is widely available to us.
Trust God, he will do good to you.
Whatever happens happens for the best.
We may not realize this now, but may be tomorrow or may be some other day. At times, we humans don't even have that intellect to see the good part in whatever happens to us. in such situations patience is the key!
Accept, trust and wait, everything will turn out to be right. Getting involved in other activities also helps in a great way, well it did to me!