Terrariums that I made

So I got very intrigued by the Terrarium workshop, and thought if I can also make one.

And yes! Look at this beautiful thing! :-)

The cute little boy...

After having a heavy dinner at a wedding, I got some ice cream as dessert. There were rows of chairs being arranged, as they are in most indian weddings for guests to sit and watch the bride and bridegroom on the stage. There I noticed a cute little boy roaming around, bored (so was I) in the wedding. I call him and ask him animatedly, would you like to have some ice cream? He is obviously shy, and hesitates. I feed him some ice cream and he smiles!
He walks away towards his father who is seated two rows ahead of me. Shows him he got ice cream, his father smiles back. Then he again comes where I am seated. I ask him the same question again, he agrees to have ice cream this time. Again he returns to his father and shows his ice cream.
Now he runs and comes to me for more ice cream. I laugh at him when I look at him from a distance. He now knows the drill and laughs in a playful and shy manner. We both know what we want. He to have ice cream from me, and me to just watch him relish and enjoy his spoonful of ice cream.
This is now being repeated four to five times, and both of us enjoying it whenever he comes. Now my parents call me as I need to be on stage to wish the couple for a bright married life. I stand and walk towards the stage, little realising about the boy.
The cute little boy as usual goes to his father after having a spoonful of ice cream, then when he comes back, searches for me. He can't find me now. He looks after me row after row, two and fro; he feels lost. I can look at him from the stage finding for me, and I feel so sorry for him. I feel bad to leave him alone. My family who knew the whole episode have the same feeling as I have. One look at him, and there was his lost face, the eagerness to meet me all over again was so evident in his walk. I try to wave out to him, indicating I am here and will be back again, but in vain. I feel sad, so does he.
Later, I wish the couple and then when I step down, I don't find him. Neither does he. Now me searching for him. Row after row; two and fro.
The eagerness of the boy trying to find me, touched me so much! I just can't forget the scene where he is finding me at those same rows where I was seated. I felt that I am needed.
But then I think again, and ponder over it. Did he need me or just the ice cream?
Yet, I continue to feel that whatever it was, the feeling that he needs me is so amazing!

I also deduced that repetitive action makes you feel something for the other person at the end. We are sure to have the same feeling for those few people in our life whom we talk to or meet on a regular basis.
The question is, will those people search for you as eagerly as the cute little boy?

What is right, what is wrong?

One always says, this is the right thing to do this is wrong. Stealing is wrong, donating is right.
But do all of us believe in this right wrong principle? I think donating is not always right. If one donates to a trust, and demands his name to be flashed. It's not right. Donating in that way is wrong.
So is there anything right or wrong in this world? I certainly don't think so.
To test the right or wrong with your peace of mind. If you do this, it gives you your peace of mind? Go ahead. No? Back out now.
How do you know all this? The answer is conscience, logic. Not high logic. simple plain reason and logic.
We all have an inner voice, which is called conscience. Some hear it aloud, some can't. But it is very much present in all of us.
Now, lets be clear with the help of an example. Is Attachment is right or wrong? Some perceive attachment as love. But it ain't so. Attachment is when you cannot function without that individual. Love is where you can.

Attachment=selfishness+love
Love=Attachment-selfishness

When people perceive attachment as love, they say attachment is good. But the truth is, attachment is no love. Many don't even know the difference between the two. Cannot accept there is a difference between the two. Cannot segregate attachment and love.
Once they do that, there will be peace.
Peace of mind is the litmus test of doing right or wrong.
Hence nothing is right, nothing wrong. As long as it gives you the peace of mind each of us deserve.

Realized? How many things we are neutralized to!

To begin, lets see what neutralization is:
Neutralized is when one gets used to that thing so much that one doesn't value it when one has it, but when it is taken away, one starts valuing it much more and ultimately he/she can't live without it.
We are neutralized to our eyes, limbs, nose; almost all our body parts. If we lose it we can't live without it. Yet, when we have it, we don't value it much.
But how can we live without being neutralized to our body parts? How is that possible? Can I keep saying: oh look at my limbs I am so grateful to have my limbs, I keep moving my limbs because I know the value of my limbs. Now, why would I do that? I would be considered insane if I would do such a thing, right?
So what should you do in order to not get neutralized? Or what is unhealthy neutralization?
Now a days couples spend so much time together, over indulge then after a point of time they say 'they simply lost interest' why does that happen? Because of overindulgence, after a point of time due to constant indulgence they get neutralized. Hence, having too many desires and feeding to it periodically and indulging to that extent will make you 'lose interest'. So how do I tackle this? Simply indulge at an optimum level. Know where your limits are.
In the west, after marriage, people go for honeymoon. Soon India, or the east has also started adopting that. But what is the Indian culture? 'Pag phere ki rasam' which is, the bride goes to her mother's place right after marriage. It is just the opposite to honeymoon. Where honeymoon is indulgence, Pag phere ki rasam indicates indulgence to a limit. I am not against indulgence but overindulgence, I just mean to say is, judge for yourself, use your intellect. You don't have to follow the heard.
Observe, question, decide: Will I be neutralized by doing this? 

Fixation + consistency

I used to always come up with a solution that the main problem with me is consistency. It is just consistency that is spoiling everything that I do. But I now know that I am not fully right.
Well, consistency is a factor, but in addition I have discovered that it is 'fixation'. To be fixed to my goals. The main reason why I or anyone cannot pull that off is because we are not fixed. Mind wanders, so does our action, thus results. So to get it all in place. I have to be fixed.
When I have to wake up at 5am in the morning, if there is a flight to catch or a lecture to attend. I will wake up instantly, and just one alarm is more than enough. But when I have to wake up at 5am just to study, I won't wake up that instantly. Reason? Fixation.
I am fixed in my mind that I have to wake up otherwise I will miss my flight or lecture. But in the other case if I don't wake up, it will be ok because it is just self study.
Now, I name my alarm 'flight to catch' and before sleeping remind myself 'flight to catch' and The results (positive of course) tell it all.
Just to imagine if everything goes as fixed and with consistency! Near perfection it will be!

Independent in the true sense.

Does being independent or self sufficient only amount to being so monetarily? If that would be the case, most of us are, and one day eventually will be independent. It is not a major task and requires very less effort for a few of them (ones who thrive on parents money) I am sure.The question remains, are we independent internally?
When your close friends whom you are so habitual to talk to on a daily basis, don't talk. You are off the Internet, whatsapp, sms etc. Then does it affect you? You are very much dependant on other people for your happiness. He/she didn't talk today at all, mood swings? Then you are not independent in the true sense. Which will ultimately lead to a so called void that some time or the other you will face in some aspects of your life.
Is it ok to depend on other people for your happiness? To not depend on others, is this a practical concept? It is great spending time with others, but make sure it doesn't become such a habit that without them you feel a void. If the void is seen, then you are not independent.
The 'affecting you because the habitual talk is missing' cannot be eradicated, but can be replaced with something better, subtler, unselfish than what was prevalent.
In a survey, a group people were given $20 to spend on themselves and the other group was given $5 to spend on others. It was seen that the ones who spent on others were reported to be more happy even if they spent less, but just because they spent on others they were happier. So it is not about how much money you have, but about giving whatever little you can give. Thus, giving in small proportions does divert your mind and make you independent.
How else would one be independent? Being objective. Not having an axe to grind everyday. Read a book, watch a movie all alone, work on creative aspects all alone, write contemplate. Not watch TV and laze around, but do anything all alone with a somewhat productive approach.
Great going to an independent life!

To let go

When that person is bothering you, no its not your family member, your close friend or anyone close in particular but yet you make a fuss about it, contemplate, waste more energy thinking and pushing and analyzing in deep. All for what?
This post is just to tell myself and you, 'to let go'
Often people say how can I just ignore, how to just let go. Its irritating, frustrating. It sure can be but don't you want to get out of the frustration? Solve the issue? So why focus on the problem but not the solution. It is very difficult to get people out of the problem they are focusing on, to not get out of the situation but just out of their mind, with me too; and that is because the problem that we all think about seems to be too big. In short we personalize it to such an extent that we overlook to even search for the solution.
Ideally, when in a fix, the first thing is to look at problem at large, not personally and then try to resolve it, think of the solution instead of the issue. Try and solve it, use the intellect to crack it. And after all that is done to try and fix the issue; understand that I must let go.
Let go of the issue, 'move on' as it is famously known as. Apply it, literally move on.
Another reason why it is difficult for people to move on, is there isn't much to do in life. So go and explore, find what you can do in life. Exploring, discovering and if you are already aware; going and doing it, will definitely help you "to let go".