Its raining... Everyone seems to be so happy! New hopes, new smiles, happy faces everywhere.
Through I don't enjoy the rains so much, but this is for those who just live it up for the mumbai rains.
Those first showers, the first drops parched on the skin can give someone a high. And it gets better with every downpour. Creative minds come out, filter coffee starts brewing. One does things what one does not even do when there are no rains.
Talking about mittiki khushboo or sondhi sondhi si khushboo,the rain on earth kind of smell can now be brought in a bottle! Yes, thats right. Walk into a shop in the bustling Teen Darwaza area of Old Ahmedabad, and ask for 'Mitti' attar also called 'itr-e-khaki'.
Im sure it can't beat the original all natural mitti ki khushboo, but hey this one is unique!
Go guys, explore your inner happiness, now get high on rains!
Sunday, June 9, 2013
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
In a situation. Blame myself.
I always do that. Blame myself. Is it right to do so? I used to feel it is right to always say it is your fault because then you improve. But excess of blaming yourself will make your morale really low. Give you low self esteem. Make you cry.
So how do you tackle this situation? The immediate effect would be to just stop thinking about yourself. Think about anything or anyone else but not yourself. We are all selfish, self-obsessed idiots! And in a situation when you are all stressed out or crying then the first thing to do is, just stop thinking of that 'me','I', 'myself'
But the question is, if One stops thinking about oneself then how do you occupy that mind? Distraction? I guess distraction would help.
Or just lying down and then catching on sleep would be the best alternative. Tried and tested :-)
So summing up, mostly blame yourself but not in every situation because that will make you a weak person overall. And if it does make you a weak person then remove the 'i' in you. Trash it!
Friday, May 3, 2013
Work for work's sake.
Now, one would wonder, what does this mean? Work for work's sake?
What is work's sake? It is something not for your own sake or for someone else, but just for work per se. No reason to work but just work because you are in this world to do your best. So just do your best and forget the rest. Sounds too clichéd, right? But true and very much practical.
Do your deed, don't worry about the fruit. As you will think about the fruit while you work, your work gets hampered, affected. Ultimately you suffer, you worry. It bothers you. Your work then bothers you. It no longer becomes pleasurable. Work becomes a load. A heavy burden load.
Get your intellect in between your mind and action, put it to the best use,for what it is best for-reasoning! Reason, think, intervene. Don't just go with the flow, get carried away but intervene, stop right there. Think!
A lot of disturbances will enter in between, irritate you. But all this will only make you sharp. A knife becomes sharp only by rubbing against a rough side. So get on to the rough side of disturbances, distractions, attractions but get sharp! Not blunt.
But how do you do that? How do you try to get your intellect in between your mind and action? How do you intervene? Only If you are constantly reminded, alerted. That is possible only by studying in the morning or reading daily on how to rise above the fall of the intellect.
What is work's sake? It is something not for your own sake or for someone else, but just for work per se. No reason to work but just work because you are in this world to do your best. So just do your best and forget the rest. Sounds too clichéd, right? But true and very much practical.
Do your deed, don't worry about the fruit. As you will think about the fruit while you work, your work gets hampered, affected. Ultimately you suffer, you worry. It bothers you. Your work then bothers you. It no longer becomes pleasurable. Work becomes a load. A heavy burden load.
Get your intellect in between your mind and action, put it to the best use,for what it is best for-reasoning! Reason, think, intervene. Don't just go with the flow, get carried away but intervene, stop right there. Think!
A lot of disturbances will enter in between, irritate you. But all this will only make you sharp. A knife becomes sharp only by rubbing against a rough side. So get on to the rough side of disturbances, distractions, attractions but get sharp! Not blunt.
But how do you do that? How do you try to get your intellect in between your mind and action? How do you intervene? Only If you are constantly reminded, alerted. That is possible only by studying in the morning or reading daily on how to rise above the fall of the intellect.
Tuesday, December 4, 2012
Even this shall pass away
Once in Persia reigned a king,
Who upon a signet ring,
Carved a maxim strange and wise,
When held before his eyes,
Gave him counsel at a glance,
Fit for every change and chance:
Solemn words, and these were they:
“Even this shall pass away.”
Trains of camel through the sand
Brought him gems from Samarcand;
Fleets of galleys over the seas
Brought him pearls to rival these,
But he counted little gain,
Treasures of the mine or main;
“What is wealth?” the king would say,
“Even this shall pass away.”
Mid the pleasures of his court
At the zenith of their sport,
When the palms of all his guests
Burned with clapping at his jests,
Seated midst the figs and wine,
Said the king, “Ah, friends of mine.
Pleasure comes but not to stay,
“Even this shall pass away.”
Woman, fairest ever seen
Was the bride he crowned as queen,
Pillowed on the marriage-bed
Whispering to his soul, he said,
“Though no monarch ever pressed
Fairer bosom to his breast,
Mortal flesh is only clay!
“Even this shall pass away.”
Fighting on the furious field,
Once a javelin pierced his shield,
Soldiers with a loud lament
Bore him bleeding to his tortured side,
“Pain is hard to bear;” he cried.
“But with patience, day by day,
Even this shall pass away.”
Towering in a public square
Forty cubits in this air,
And the king disguised, unknown,
Gazed upon his sculptured name.
And he pondered, “What is fame?”
“Fame is but a slow decay!
“Even this shall pass away.”
Struck with palsy, sore and old,
Waiting at the gates of gold,
Said he with his dying breath
“Life is done, but what is Death?”
Then as answer to the king
Fell a sunbeam on his ring;
Showing by a heavenly ray
Even this shall pass away.”
Who upon a signet ring,
Carved a maxim strange and wise,
When held before his eyes,
Gave him counsel at a glance,
Fit for every change and chance:
Solemn words, and these were they:
“Even this shall pass away.”
Trains of camel through the sand
Brought him gems from Samarcand;
Fleets of galleys over the seas
Brought him pearls to rival these,
But he counted little gain,
Treasures of the mine or main;
“What is wealth?” the king would say,
“Even this shall pass away.”
Mid the pleasures of his court
At the zenith of their sport,
When the palms of all his guests
Burned with clapping at his jests,
Seated midst the figs and wine,
Said the king, “Ah, friends of mine.
Pleasure comes but not to stay,
“Even this shall pass away.”
Woman, fairest ever seen
Was the bride he crowned as queen,
Pillowed on the marriage-bed
Whispering to his soul, he said,
“Though no monarch ever pressed
Fairer bosom to his breast,
Mortal flesh is only clay!
“Even this shall pass away.”
Fighting on the furious field,
Once a javelin pierced his shield,
Soldiers with a loud lament
Bore him bleeding to his tortured side,
“Pain is hard to bear;” he cried.
“But with patience, day by day,
Even this shall pass away.”
Towering in a public square
Forty cubits in this air,
And the king disguised, unknown,
Gazed upon his sculptured name.
And he pondered, “What is fame?”
“Fame is but a slow decay!
“Even this shall pass away.”
Struck with palsy, sore and old,
Waiting at the gates of gold,
Said he with his dying breath
“Life is done, but what is Death?”
Then as answer to the king
Fell a sunbeam on his ring;
Showing by a heavenly ray
Even this shall pass away.”
Friday, November 30, 2012
Snapshot of human nature
The bhagavad gita is a manual guide to control your
mind.
If your relationship is in a bad phase then it is
because you do not know how to control your mind.
If your carrier is in a bad phase then it is because you
don't know how to control of your mind. If you get angry after success, it is because you do
not know how to control your mind.
Our life is not encrypted and set, like the life of an
animal.
A photographer tries to photograph a ray fish
underwater and the tail of the ray fish hits his body and he dies on the spot.
His wife and kids wont blame the ray fish for his death
because they know that is its nature.
The nature of an animal is its ferocity.
Human beings are different than animals in various
ways. If you study an animal then you can generalise about
the rest.
For example, if you study a cockroach then you can
generalise about the nature of the rest of the
cockroaches.
That is because animals are homogeneous in nature. But this is not in the case of human beings.
We have different type of natures.
Two siblings living in the same house, having the
same kind of nourishment and caring but have
significantly different nature.
Even twins have different nature!
There is often confusion regarding the behaviour pattern in human beings.
For example a mother is upset that her 16 yr old
daughter does not share things with her but rather
shares it with her friends!
She says I being your mother lived with you every single day and I am the last person to know it!
A person wants to leave his wife, and be with
someone else.
And the reason his wife is upset is not that he is bad
and infidel, but why is he bad with her, whereas he
has the good qualities and can remain good with an another woman.
This is the confusion...
We all have good and bad qualities,
for example, during riots a bus goes, and rioters are
hitting stones, and their leader says don't hurt the
driver, don't hurt the driver! We all have that little humility in us, that conscience
which is good.
Everyone has a different nature, a top actress who
finds out that her husband is infidel wants to make
sure that he is monetarily empty.
It is because that actress has a bad nature it triggers and she wants to act upon it.
If her nature is calm and serene then she will say
human beings make mistakes and so what if he has
made a mistake, let me forgive him.
Who knows he might realise his mistake because of
her generosity...
In any relationship, what a person wants is 'to accept
however he\she is'
You cannot change the nature of any human being
then how can you relate to that person or work in
harmony? As everyone of us living in a society have
to work in harmony and co operation. Observe what that person likes or dislikes,how he
reacts to all the things.
If you get your ego in between and say no, it happens
like this and the solution that I am giving is the way it
supposed to be and you must act according to me!
Then you are attracting hatred, either the person will be submissive and go away or become aggressive.
So, observe without being critical, just plainly observe,
don't judge if he/she is good or bad, right or wrong.
If you want to work with the person in harmony, how do you handle?
Observe what triggers the person to act, and in what
way can you relate to him. For example, see... Ok he/she likes it if I offer him
work in a polite manner so I must be polite and kind.
You should relate to it, act according to that person,
see what triggers him/her to act and what triggers
him/her to get annoyed
And then work with him/her accordingly. In fact, the aspect that you are changing and acting
according to the other person and relating in that
way, that is called Love...
When you yourself cannot change after attending so
much of self improvement lectures, then how can
you expect the other person to change, the one who is not even attending those lectures !?!
PS: This is a lecture by Adi Kalyaniwala, I have just made an attempt to write and compile it down.
mind.
If your relationship is in a bad phase then it is
because you do not know how to control your mind.
If your carrier is in a bad phase then it is because you
don't know how to control of your mind. If you get angry after success, it is because you do
not know how to control your mind.
Our life is not encrypted and set, like the life of an
animal.
A photographer tries to photograph a ray fish
underwater and the tail of the ray fish hits his body and he dies on the spot.
His wife and kids wont blame the ray fish for his death
because they know that is its nature.
The nature of an animal is its ferocity.
Human beings are different than animals in various
ways. If you study an animal then you can generalise about
the rest.
For example, if you study a cockroach then you can
generalise about the nature of the rest of the
cockroaches.
That is because animals are homogeneous in nature. But this is not in the case of human beings.
We have different type of natures.
Two siblings living in the same house, having the
same kind of nourishment and caring but have
significantly different nature.
Even twins have different nature!
There is often confusion regarding the behaviour pattern in human beings.
For example a mother is upset that her 16 yr old
daughter does not share things with her but rather
shares it with her friends!
She says I being your mother lived with you every single day and I am the last person to know it!
A person wants to leave his wife, and be with
someone else.
And the reason his wife is upset is not that he is bad
and infidel, but why is he bad with her, whereas he
has the good qualities and can remain good with an another woman.
This is the confusion...
We all have good and bad qualities,
for example, during riots a bus goes, and rioters are
hitting stones, and their leader says don't hurt the
driver, don't hurt the driver! We all have that little humility in us, that conscience
which is good.
Everyone has a different nature, a top actress who
finds out that her husband is infidel wants to make
sure that he is monetarily empty.
It is because that actress has a bad nature it triggers and she wants to act upon it.
If her nature is calm and serene then she will say
human beings make mistakes and so what if he has
made a mistake, let me forgive him.
Who knows he might realise his mistake because of
her generosity...
In any relationship, what a person wants is 'to accept
however he\she is'
You cannot change the nature of any human being
then how can you relate to that person or work in
harmony? As everyone of us living in a society have
to work in harmony and co operation. Observe what that person likes or dislikes,how he
reacts to all the things.
If you get your ego in between and say no, it happens
like this and the solution that I am giving is the way it
supposed to be and you must act according to me!
Then you are attracting hatred, either the person will be submissive and go away or become aggressive.
So, observe without being critical, just plainly observe,
don't judge if he/she is good or bad, right or wrong.
If you want to work with the person in harmony, how do you handle?
Observe what triggers the person to act, and in what
way can you relate to him. For example, see... Ok he/she likes it if I offer him
work in a polite manner so I must be polite and kind.
You should relate to it, act according to that person,
see what triggers him/her to act and what triggers
him/her to get annoyed
And then work with him/her accordingly. In fact, the aspect that you are changing and acting
according to the other person and relating in that
way, that is called Love...
When you yourself cannot change after attending so
much of self improvement lectures, then how can
you expect the other person to change, the one who is not even attending those lectures !?!
PS: This is a lecture by Adi Kalyaniwala, I have just made an attempt to write and compile it down.
Knowledge is always taken never given.
Parents always tell their children, do this do that. They pressurize them to the core and the result all of us are seeing is the suicides happening everywhere. It is a very sad thing that is happening around today.
Even I hate it when people just advice me even when I didn't ask them anything. I call that 'free advice'; why do that? Why not just do our own respective work and carry on.
At times it ok to offer a helping hand, but after looking at the receivers negative reaction, do you still want to offer that help?
My sir used to always observe that friends help others even if they have not asked help. He used to say, 'that person is not your friend who helps you when you are not asking him for help; He is just trying to prove that how intelligent he is'. If he is not helping you then he is purposely doing that so you can prove it yourself!
Is there bliss in getting help from others and then saying hey! I am done with my work?
Or is there bliss in saying that hey! I am done with my work and that too all by myself!
I am not against the act of helping, I am against free advice givers!
Ok fine you see someone in pain and then you ask do you need help? if he says yes I do.
Earlier even I used to help others, even if not asked, but then I realized this fact
Is it practical?
We come across so many quotes and sayings, but do we apply them is our daily life?
I try and apply them, and one must, I feel, if you listen to it believe in it then why not apply it?
What is the use in just listening and going ahead? Doesn't make sense according to me.
So, here are some lines that really did inspire me.
'Your happiness should not be dependent on others'
I completely agree with this sentence. But no one applies this one. They say it is difficult to apply. Hey, no pain no gain! Besides this one is really very beneficial and if applied there wont be any attachments to anyone. This will solve almost half of our problems. Just think about it, the pain that a person goes through if someone loses someone. It would be great if his/her happiness would be dependent on others. It does not say that don't love others, it just says that don't be attached to them. Now people would come up and say, this is not practical! ohh yes it is, if you would try to apply, give a try. Such people are just deciding what will be the outcome! You can't decide that. No one can. Try and then wait and watch, the results will be amazing.
I try and apply them, and one must, I feel, if you listen to it believe in it then why not apply it?
What is the use in just listening and going ahead? Doesn't make sense according to me.
So, here are some lines that really did inspire me.
'Your happiness should not be dependent on others'
I completely agree with this sentence. But no one applies this one. They say it is difficult to apply. Hey, no pain no gain! Besides this one is really very beneficial and if applied there wont be any attachments to anyone. This will solve almost half of our problems. Just think about it, the pain that a person goes through if someone loses someone. It would be great if his/her happiness would be dependent on others. It does not say that don't love others, it just says that don't be attached to them. Now people would come up and say, this is not practical! ohh yes it is, if you would try to apply, give a try. Such people are just deciding what will be the outcome! You can't decide that. No one can. Try and then wait and watch, the results will be amazing.
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